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How to stop an erection

How to stop an erection

You might have found yourself wondering how to lose an erection if you’ve got one at an inappropriate or potentially embarrassing time. A random erection is one that occurs at a time when you’re not sexually stimulated or ‘in the mood.’

Random erections are more often associated with teenagers and the process of puberty, but they can occur in men of any age. Some men also struggle to get or maintain an erection, this is common and normal too. It’s when ED starts to impact you consistently and negatively that it might be worth discussing your symptoms with a medical professional.

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Why do we get erections unexpectedly?

If you’ve ever found yourself standing to attention without explanation, you’re not alone. Random erections are common and usually not something to worry too much about. If you’ve ever wondered how to have a healthy penis, random erections could be a sign that everything is working as it should be.

One type of ‘random erection’ is one which occurs in the night, known as nocturnal penile tumescence (NPT). You may also have woken with an erection, often referred to as ‘morning glory’. NPT is common and typically occurs three to five times in average, healthy men. Nighttime erections can last for between 25 and 35 minutes , and are associated with the rapid eye movement (REM) stage of sleep.

Random erections may also happen because of hormone levels. The levels of testosterone, a male sex hormone, can fluctuate daily. It may be possible that as they rise and peak, random erections occur. Testosterone replacement has been trialed and studied as a treatment for erectile dysfunction, with mixed results.

But whatever the reason, the ability to get and maintain an erection, even randomly, is typically a sign that, physically, everything is working in order. Erections happen when the brain sends chemical messages to the blood vessels in the penis. They respond and dilate, which allows for blood to flow into the corpus cavernosum – two sponge-like chambers in the penis. One there, the vessels at the base of the penis constrict which should induce lasting rigidity and firmness.

For erections to happen, you generally need to have healthy circulation. If you experience random erections but also suffer with erectile dysfunction when you try to have sex, this could be indicative that your ED symptoms are more psychological in nature.

How to get rid of an erection

You might have wondered how to stop getting erections at inappropriate or potentially embarrassing times if you experience them. But there are some simple steps you can take to ensure it doesn’t happen, or that it subsides quickly if it does. From physical measures like taking a shower to psychological measures like practicing meditation techniques. Read on to find out how to not get an erection when you don’t want one:

Changing your position when you have a random erection might sound self-explanatory, but it actually has two functions.

Firstly, if you get a random erection at a potentially embarrassing or unwanted time, you can try and manoeuvre yourself to hide the erection and reduce how self-conscious you feel. This could include crossing your legs, for example.

But certain positions may also help to move pressure away from the blood vessels that supply the penis and induce an erection. The way you’re sitting may also inadvertently be stimulating, so changing position could help to reduce the effect of stimulation.

Another thing you may want to try if you have a random erection is changing your train of thought or distracting yourself.

For example, – try thinking about something serious like your rent or mortgage, bills or work deadlines. Or you may want to think about something completely random or even humorous.

Meditation is an ancient practice derived from Buddhism. Research shows that regular meditation can be beneficial in a number of ways because it focuses on breathing techniques, the self and forgetting the material. Practicing mindfulness through breathing or chanting helps to cultivate ‘awareness of how the mind works and the ability to maintain focus.’

Meditation may also help with random erections because it shifts focus from the physical and external to the mind and the internal. This might sound hard to grasp in practice, so here’s a good way to get you started:

  1. If you have a random erection, shift the focus to your breathing.
  2. If you can, close your eyes.
  3. Sit with your back straight and inhale through your nose for four seconds.
  4. Hold your breath for seven seconds.
  5. Exhale through your mouth for eight seconds.
  6. Try to do this with a completely blank mind, don’t think of anything at all. (It’s harder than it sounds).

This is known as the ‘4-7-8 technique.’ It might not always be practical to meditate fully, but focusing on your breathing alone is a subtle way of practicing meditation without drawing attention to yourself.

It has been posited that random erections which occur in the night may act as a mechanism to prevent you from urinating while you sleep. However, more research on the subject is needed. Most experts believe nocturnal penile tumescence is associated exclusively with the rapid eye movement (REM) stage of sleep, and has little to do with bladder function.

Either way, if you have a random erection, going to the toilet is a good method to try and help it subside. This is because you’re concentrating your mind on something else.

There’s actually quite a simple explanation for why it’s difficult to urinate with an erection. When you have an erection, the internal urethral sphincter contracts. It does this to prevent semen from entering the bladder, but also stops urine from passing through the urethra.

As your erection subsides, the internal urethral sphincter will relax and dilate, opening a passage for urine once again. This is why it’s possible to urinate while ‘semi’ erect.

If you go to the bathroom with a random erection, concentrate on going to the toilet. If it helps, you can press (gently) and massage your bladder to promote the need to pee. Sooner or later, your mind will recognise that your bladder needs to empty, and the erection will naturally subside.

If you have a random erection and you’re able to take a cold shower, this is another good way to help an unwanted erection subside. A cold shower will give the body a mini shock which triggers an evolutionary ‘fight or flight’ response.

You may also have heard of ‘winter penis’, where the penis supposedly shrinks in colder weather. Some sexual health experts claim this happens because the blood vessels temporarily shut down when we’re exposed to colder weather. Taking a cold shower may have a similar effect.

Your erection should naturally ease up in a cold shower. However, if you’re experiencing priapism – a painful erection that won’t go away – avoid cold showers altogether as they could make the situation worse.

A downside to this method is that taking a shower isn’t always practical, especially if you have a random erection in a public setting.

Another method to help alleviate a random erection is to simply sit and wait. Moving may inadvertently feel stimulating, and so not moving at all and waiting patiently might help the erection subside.

Just sit, relax and focus on your breathing – and remember, nobody is more conscious of your erection than you. So don’t panic, wait it out.

Erections happen because blood flows into the penis. One there, vessels at the base of the penis constrict which induces lasting firmness. This is all well and good, except when you don’t want it to happen and it does.

To try and get rid of an erection, focus on basic exercise. Exercise will get your blood pumping and the circulatory system will divert blood to other areas of the body, specifically those you’re targeting through physical activity. So, a brisk walk would divert blood to the legs, pushups to the arms.

When is an erection a health risk?

Random erections are natural. Usually, they’ll go away on their own.

But, if you have an erection that doesn’t go away – this could potentially be a health risk. Specifically, if you have an erection that lasts for two hours or longer and is accompanied by pain or swelling, or an erection that lasts for four hours or longer and there is no pain, you need to seek medical help immediately.

A painful erection that doesn’t go away is called priapism. Priapism can be caused by certain medications, like blood-thinners, antidepressants or recreational drugs, or it can be caused by certain health conditions such as blood disorders.

Priapism needs to be treated quickly to avoid lasting damage to the penis. One method of treatment involves draining blood from the penis while the area is numbed using local anaesthetic.

What does it mean if I get erections randomly, but can’t get them during sex?

Getting random erections, perhaps during the night or in the morning, but experiencing an inability to get them while you’re having sex is a clear sign of erectile dysfunction.

It could also point specifically to ED that is caused by psychological factors. If you experience random erections or nocturnal penile tumescence (NPT), this shows that physically – all the internal mechanisms which provide you with an erection are working in order. Your blood vessels are dilating, the penis is filling with blood, you’re experiencing lasting firmness and rigidity, and so on.

If you’re unable to get it up when you want to have sex, this shows you may have psychological ED. This can be a symptom of mental health conditions like depression, anxiety or post-traumatic stress disorder (PTSD). But it can also happen when you’re tired or because of things like panic or worry surrounding the idea of performance, relationship issues or stress.

If you get random erections but can’t get one during sex – the single best piece of advice we can give is to sit down with your partner and talk it through. Discuss what’s happening and any reasons you think might be causing it. If this doesn’t help, take it one step further and consider speaking with your doctor, a counsellor or a sexual health expert.

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Help for erectile dysfunction

Erectile dysfunction can be complicated and difficult to understand, but it doesn’t have to be something you settle for. It is possible to reverse erectile dysfunction and get back to enjoying a healthy sex life. You can talk to a registered expert right here at Treated. Our doctors, prescribers and sexual health experts will work with you to diagnose and treat your ED. Answer some basic questions about your health and symptoms, help them get to know you a bit better, and they’ll review. If they think you could benefit from ED medication, they’ll suggest treatments for you to choose from. If you’re happy, we’ll ship your medication regularly in discreet packaging.

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